Thursday, January 19, 2006

Celebrate the joys of fatherhood

Spending life in the bars seems to be a tradition embraced by many of our men unfortunately. It looks fashionable to spend your life as a married man enjoying the breeze of legitimate sex yet still celebrating the joys of single hood with the boys. Nothing wrong with the same…, only those who have taken down this road live with bitter regrets of their last ages wanting, willing, and wishing that they had been more fatherly to their kids.

Make confessions to those willing to listen that they know that they were bad fathers and terrible husbands. Let’s talk about Mark, the chief Executive of Do me Good Company, taking home an enviable amount of money. He has everything he wants in life, a beautiful house (home) , a pretty (quiet) wife, two healthy bright kids.

Everyone would want to think this guy has the best life, our eyes mirror he has. Damn you say, if only I was a CEO then my life would be as good as Mark’s. Mark had to work his way up the corporate ladder, meaning he spent half his life working hard to make it to the top. Meanwhile his wife and children spent their lives having dinner without the man of the house who often sneaked late in their dreams with work home only to wake up early and finish it.

So now Mark is at the top of his career… what next. He discovered there are numerous spots in the country which he has never visited despite his enviable income not to mention the ever increasing entertainment allowances. The young hotties in town suddenly become very attractive..i don’t blame him. He realizes a room at the Grand Regency can be arranged with much ease once his name is mentioned. Illicit sex becomes his new obsession.

His wife has since become boring and the children have no problem as long as they can mention their newly acquired toys to cause green envy in front of their peers. Daddy is CEO is all that matters to them. The children grow up not knowing daddy….

To all my male friends
Money is important but it is not everything; don’t miss the joys of fatherhood chasing it.
May you become the best daddy there ever was
Money can never make up for your absenteeism
You will regret if you never make up time for your family
Your wife and children are everything to you in the world; they will look after you when you fall from grace
If you never had a daddy, always learn from your uncles and God
Your anger at your own father is not enough to make your own children suffer
Learn not to blame everything on dear daddy; learn from his mistakes and move on

With inspiration from tout noir


  1. Right on!!!

    I was lucky. My father taught me to play chess, used to sit and play toy cars with me, would stay at home with me while everyone else went out, and we'd frequently play monopoly for hours on end (we'd both cheat).

    I always knew I was blessed. Increasingly, I realize how much.

  2. I guess I'm also lucky coz my dad was there for me when I was growing up.
    About the post thats mad food for thought esp to some of us young cats out here who wanna go out and conquer the world, might forget what truly matters

  3. You're absolutely right, but..! Did you say we can confess? Ok. What about those women who keep their kids from their dads?

  4. a pretty (quiet) wife they still make those lol.

    on the issue i agree with you 100%My dad used to work long hours and we hardly saw him but one day things snapped and he realised what he was missing.we started spending weekends togther as a family and now that we are all grown up we are still all daddy's children .

  5. Shiroh I get what you are saying. My dad was exactly the sort that provides for the family but isnt there for them day in day out. But he retired and mellowed down and now we are more like best friends than parent and children. I go home and we all sit together and tell jokes and stories and laugh and hug and even have a drink together, something that no one thought would ever happen. Its like the roles have been reversed and my dad now sits and listens to everything we have to tell or teach him.

    I say its never too late, but at the same time wish he was like this when I was growing up.

  6. My Dad was so there , that there were times I wish he wasn't, like when he uttered he famous line 'Young man do not call this house again!' And I wonder why I'm single? That rumour is still out and about.
    Funny thing is, I wouldn't want to have a spouse less devoted to my children than my Dad. I turned out alright... I think.

  7. great post shiroh. i was one of those unlucky souls whose parents were in stato going to college while the kiddos were back home. thank God for extended family! all the same, we're now a great family, very tight and despite all our busy schedules, we even have a family day. it sure does make up for all the childhood years he was missing. like guess said, it's never too late.

  8. Shiroh great great post. I agree with you spending time with the kids is priceless. As busy as we get doing all the stuff that we do, we still have time that we can spare on any of our favorite passtimes.

  9. For as far back as I can remember my daddy was one of those parents who checked in at 6.00pm on the dot come rain or shine, I wished (stupid me!!) he would stay on at work and let me get up to some mischief like most kids, he knew my teachers personally and between them they moulded me nipende nisipende .I landed with a similar type who LOVES staying at home with them babies.

    Men I hope you are listening and acting on it
    Lovely post shiro.

  10. Nice post.I never got to spend much time with my dad coz he was building a brighter future for us but I enjoyed the few moments that we had.More of our old school type dads should take this to heart.

  11. I think the problem is that many guys get married too early in life...even before they've had the chance to enjoy themselves - have you ever noticed that anyone who tells you he married at age 33-36 is the model husband and father? Just goes to tell you that immediately you get a job, don't rush into marriage, relax and enjoy singlehood first, then get married when it's all bored you. This thing of "maturing" early isn't gonna help anyone 0- it's pretending and it's going to catch up with you in the form of mid-life crisis! Mature slowly and you'll be a good as a superbly matured brandy, eh!!!

  12. @Keguro, lucky you.
    @tomas, please do not forget what matters.
    @whisperin in..which women are these?
    @joe,try me.At
    @guess, did it at first feel awkward when he wanted some bonding?
    @gishungwa, thanks
    @prous,mischief..rings a bell,sniffing the sofas when guests left.
    @instigator (which one) Yeah you have to make time bana
    @bj..priceless or priceless? thnks
    @anon,i hope they are listening. I too agree with you but once you have chosen the at it.

  13. Nice post Shiroh ... makes me miss my pops even more :(

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